At first I felt sure this wouldn’t apply to me. But this was actually the most painful question for me to face. The issue at hand goes beyong the physical act. It includes how I present myself before a world of men who are in covenant with other women.
Our society is beauty conscious. Actually beauty obsessed might be a better word. For women, the message we receive from all varieties of media is that to be happy we must be beautiful. This is not good news to those of us who aren’t beautiful. So we spend hundreds and thousands of dollars on hair care, makeup, clothing and whatever else we can find to improve our appearance.
We learn how to use our appearance to our advantage and how to feel better about ourselves by attracting the attention of men. The right kind of look from a man can boost an insecure woman’s self esteem for days. But it’s all innocent, of course. And if I have dressed in a way to provoke a look, even possibly a lustful look – well, there’s no harm in a man looking, right?
I would have never thought of it as flirting with adultery until I considered this behavior in light of these words of Jesus:
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, You shall not commit adultery. But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28